This year I was called into a situation in my personal life that I strongly resisted. It involves a family member’s physical and mental illness, and straightening out the effects of lifelong dysfunction and unhealthy decisions. It requires a lot of communication, both written and verbal, and some red tape. The situation is a can of worms: somewhat repellent, time-consuming, emotionally draining and it costs money. (If you’ve ever gone fishing in a tourist area, you know a can of worms costs money.) When I reach into this can lined with dirt and pull on a worm, another one quickly takes its place. Most of my efforts to improve the situation seem to have no lasting effect.

This situation seems to get in the way of MY plans to manifest inspirations I’ve received, which I feel are no less than my soul’s purpose on this earth. And yet I choose my involvement because it makes sense and feels like the most loving thing for me to do. Into this situation I am also called. I know there is a higher purpose operating. I am not willing NOT to help. I am in dire need of surrender to end my conflict.

Your passage through time and space is not random.
You cannot but be in the right place at the right time.

A Course in Miracles (ACIM)

That’s a strong statement, and an excellent argument in favor of surrender. In fact, if you believe that this is true, nothing BUT surrender makes sense. Let’s take a look at the passage in context, just to be sure it really means what it seems to mean:

God is my strength. Vision is His gift.

The idea for today combines two very powerful thoughts, both of major importance. It also sets forth a cause and effect relationship which explains why you cannot fail in your efforts to achieve the goal of the course. You will see because it is the Will of God. It is His strength, not your own, that gives you power. And it is His gift to you, rather than your own, which offers vision to you.

God is indeed your strength, and what He gives is truly given. This means that you can receive it any time and anywhere, wherever you are and in whatever circumstances you find yourself. Your passage through time and space is not random. You cannot but be in the right place at the right time. Such is the strength of God. Such are His gifts.

(ACIM Workbook Lesson 42)

That sounds fool-proof. When I am conflicted or resistant to what is, on some level I am being foolish.

Do the Next Right Thing

I began singing Luke Parker’s Sweet Surrender every day a few months ago (modifying the words a bit to more closely represent my understanding). It’s the perfect morning prayer. I found Sweet Surrender “by accident” on YouTube while looking for music for my August post of the same name. I had never heard of the song or Luke Parker before.

The act of singing is like taking a bath in the energy of the music. When we sing, we allow the energy of the song—its tones, its words, its rhythm, its color and its intent—to vibrate throughout our whole bodies and our whole beings. The song engulfs our aura. By singing (instead of just listening), we integrate the song more efficiently and completely. It’s like the difference between “dipped in chocolate” and “100% solid chocolate”.

Now here’s something worth noting. Exactly what I was going to need (the song Sweet Surrender) showed up for me—effortlessly. AND, I responded by opening to it. I listened, and I began to sing. That’s synchronicity. Singing Sweet Surrender as a prayer prepared me for this holy situation I tend to resist, and carries me through my resistance to surrender and a place of peace. No fancy equipment required—the energy of the song is available whenever I need it.

Sweet Surrender by Luke Parker

Sweet Surrender

In my weakness You are strong
You hold my hand and You hold my heart
And in the secret place I’m on my knees
Reaching the deepest parts for You to heal
I am thirsty for Your Presence Lord

Sweet surrender is all I can give
Sweet surrender to You my offering
Father, You’re all I’m living for
I’m holding on to You, my Light, my All.

In Your Fullness I am free
Help me Father to receive
And in the secret place I’m on my knees
Offering all I am to You to use
I am grateful for Your Presence Lord

Sweet surrender is all I can give
Sweet surrender to You my offering
Father, You’re all I’m living for
I’m holding onto You, my Light, my All

There is nothing more, there is nothing more I have
There is nothing more I have to give
There is nothing more, there is nothing more I have
There is nothing more I have to give

Sweet surrender is all I can give
Sweet surrender to You my offering
Sweet, You’re my Light
Sweet, You’re my Life

I’ll meet You in the quiet, I’ll meet You in the quiet hour
I’ll meet You in the morning with no one else around
I’ll meet You in the morning light
It’s You—You have my heart
It’s You—You have my heart

I’ll meet You in the quiet, I’ll meet You in the quiet hour
I’ll meet You in the morning with no one else around
I’ll meet You in the morning light
It’s You—You have my heart
It’s You—You have my heart


Resistance, underneath, is the false idol of control. I resist because I believe that whatever I had in mind is better. Now I am in conflict with what is. When I instead surrender to what is (or love what is, as Byron Katie teaches), I have peace. In peace I receive the strength and vision (or understanding) God has given me. Indeed, “in every need that I perceive, God’s grace suffices me,” because I have been given this strength and vision, which is exactly why I have “no cause for anger or for fear.” (ACIM Workbook Lesson 348)

What is Surrender?

Surrender is simply letting go of the small or ego self and all of its ideas, plans, preferences, strategies and demands, and instead allowing what is to be, without argument. It is the graceful, peaceful, internal white flag.

I could see peace instead of this.

(ACIM Workbook Lesson 34)

What does surrender actually look like in everyday life? It’s usually not perfect. Living surrender is staying vigilant with the higher, observer’s eye to the inner and outer experience of life, and giving up our resistance when we notice it is present. We surrender to what is simply because it is. We may also take steps to change what is and have a different experience. But meanwhile, in order to live in peace, love and joy, we are still called to surrender moment-by-moment to that which is.

When we surrender our idols—the people, conditions or things of this world we choose to make more important than God Itself—we open the means or medium to perceive heavenly energies. It’s like we turn on the TV to the HD Heaven Channel. Now, having surrendered that which was in our way, we can welcome and remember peace, love and joy. Peace, love and joy are the Thoughts of God.

The Thoughts of God are far beyond all change and shine forever.
They await not birth. They wait for welcome and remembering.
The Thought God holds of you is like a star, unchangeable in an eternal sky.
So high in Heaven is it set that those outside of Heaven know not it is there.
Yet still and white and lovely will it shine through all eternity.
There was no time it was not there;
no instant when its light grew dimmer or less perfect ever was.

Who knows the Father knows this light,
for He is the eternal sky which holds it safe,
forever lifted up, and anchored sure.
Its perfect purity does not depend on whether it is seen on earth or not.
The sky embraces it and softly holds it in its perfect place,
which is as far from earth as earth from Heaven.
It is not the distance nor the time which keeps this star invisible to earth.
But those who seek for idols cannot know this star is there.

(ACIM Text Chapter 30, The New Beginning, IV. Beyond All Idols)

Why Surrender?

It is safe to surrender because of these truths:

I am under no laws but God’s.

(ACIM Workbook Lesson 76)

Heaven is here. There is nowhere else.
Heaven is now. There is no other time. . . .
All beliefs will point to this if properly interpreted.

(ACIM Manual for Teachers, 24. Is Reincarnation So?)

Surrender is a basic component of a life well-lived. It’s part of the mental discipline of focus (giving oneself over to the task at hand), as well as release and relaxation. In practicing mindfulness we surrender to each moment, being “with” whatever we are doing or experiencing. In the best bodywork, the practitioner surrenders her attention to the present and moves from moment to moment “with” the receiver, listening and responding.

Surrender is available to all of us, at all times, under all circumstances. We may not have time to meditate or get a massage, we may not have resources to go on a retreat or vacation, we may not have fully healed whatever issues get in our way of being our best, most loving, most tuned-in selves, but we can ALWAYS surrender to what is. As we learn to surrender, we grow into truer versions of ourselves as God created us.

Surrender and Receive

Among the tasks I’ve undertaken to improve the situation I’ve referred to is writing a history of events significant to my family member’s mental illness so that the counselor has the benefit of this information. Not knowing this history has derailed other attempts to help. This is no surprise since we cannot heal mentally, emotionally and energetically while also guarding our secret traumas, sorrows and shames. No one would expect to heal a broken leg by denying it, covering it up and dancing the jig on it. As I write this history, unhealed aspects of MY family experience arise—my own hurts, sorrows and shames—and THIS is the gift for me. As I surrender to whatever the situation calls for, I receive golden opportunities to heal through forgiving myself and others. I receive the opportunity to surrender the past back to the illusion (or unreality) in which the past belongs.

To give and to receive are one in truth.

(ACIM Workbook Lesson 108)

I Surrender

When I surrender I relax into a place of trust. I can handle whatever is in front of me. I can also manifest my calling. I can do both—with the strength of God supporting me and Its understanding guiding me.


Whatever is happening in our lives is perfect for our own unfolding. It is precisely the ultimate learning and healing situation, custom-crafted for each of us, just as we are at that moment in time. To resist is to push the best, most efficient lesson leading back to enlightenment away. When we surrender to that which is—whatever it is—with trust in God, our lives become an adventure of surprise gifts presented in unlikely places. Surrender becomes an adventure to exactly where we want to be.

My surrender, Father, is my thanks for Your gift of strength and vision.
This Thanksgiving, I gratefully bow down in surrender.

What situation in your life is calling for your surrender? Will you join me in singing this song of sweet surrender to our Creator and that which is?

With Peace and Love,

Mira Carroll

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3 Responses to “Surrender”
  1. miracarroll says:

    The Workbook Lesson (331) for today (Nov. 27) is, “There is no conflict, for my will is Yours.” That’s surrender. ❤ ❤ ❤


  2. Elaine Mays says:

    Wow, Carol. Really powerful stuff. Just what I needed to read at this moment as I am helping my parents through all that is going on. Thanks! E


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    • miracarroll says:

      Thanks for sharing, E! To know this piece has been helpful makes my day. Sending peace, love, light, strength, protection, comfort and healing to you and your parents, and all who are navigating similar territory (which is a lot of souls these days). ❤ ❤ ❤


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