Healing Loss: Grace

Grace Notes: of Music and Spirit


Grace is an aspect of the Love of God which is most like the state prevailing in the Unity of truth. It is the world’s most lofty aspiration, for it leads beyond the world entirely. It is past learning yet the goal of learning, for grace cannot come until the mind prepares itself for true acceptance. Grace becomes inevitable instantly in those who have prepared a table where it can be gently laid and willingly received; an altar clean and holy for the gift.

Grace is acceptance of the Love of God within a world of seeming hate and fear. By grace alone the hate and fear are gone, for grace presents a state so opposite to everything the world contains, that those whose minds are lighted by the gift of grace can not believe the world of fear is real.

(A Course in Miracles Workbook Lesson 169 – By grace I live. By grace I am released.)


Love doesn’t die with the bodies of our loved ones who have passed over or moved on. Love doesn’t disappear, like circumstances or things we have lost. Love is alive in God and in each of us, always accessible simply by opening the doors of our hearts.

But when we are entangled in the emotions of loss, we need help to find Love. We need help to find our way back to ourselves. We are often engulfed by feelings—devastated, angry, alone, hopeless, afraid, overwhelmed, guilty, not enough, empty, lost, adrift. At times we may become so disoriented we need to be carried. Sometimes we are carried without knowing it. In these moments of profound amnesia we are given grace to help us remember who we really are. Grace—a blessing; a gift from the Divine that is prepared for but not “earned” or “attained”—is why “the wound is the place where the Light enters you.” Grace arrives when we need it. But if we endeavor to claim the fullness of our inheritance as the children of God, we will also have to learn to ask for help.

The musical prayer Grace by Jonathan Elias captures the essence of feeling lost and the only sane response—to ask for help.  Asking opens us to receive. Listen first with your eyes closed. Listen to the sincerity of the prayer and notice how the promise of grace wraps itself lovingly around the question even before it is articulated.  This is a holy moment:



Grace by Jonathon Elias – from “The Prayer Cycle”

with John Williams, James Taylor and The English Chamber Chorus


Movement V: Grace

Graphic Wound Where Light EntersFather won’t you carry me
For the ocean is wide
Father won’t you carry me
For my boat is so small

Father on a moonless night
Help me cross the stormy sea
Out here in the darkness
Help me find my way back home

Father won’t you carry me
For the ocean is wide
Father won’t you carry me
For my boat is so small

Father in the season of dying
Let me sleep in your arms
And come watch over me
Someone watching over me, over me.

Father won’t you carry me
Father won’t you carry me
Father won’t you carry me home?


“Home” is whenever and wherever the heart is open, in connection with The All:

I am as God created me.
I will remain forever as I was, created by the Changeless like Himself.
And I am one with Him, and He with me.
(A Course in Miracles Workbook Lesson 112)

We ARE asleep in our Father’s arms and He IS watching over us. Our part in healing—awakening to know that we are already home—is to practice complete forgiveness under the guidance of the Holy Spirit. God takes the final step and redelivers us to the consciousness of Oneness. All of this is grace.

God honored even the miscreations of His Children [the idea of separation and its seeming effects] because they had made them. But he also blessed them with a way of thinking about them that could raise their perceptions until they became so lofty that they could reach almost back to Him.

The Holy Spirit is the mind of the Atonement. [at-one-ment, the path to Oneness] It represents a state of mind that comes close enough to one-mindedness that transfer is at last possible. As you well know, transfer depends on common elements in the old learning and the new situation to which it is transferred.

Perception is not knowledge, but it can be TRANSFERRED to knowledge, or CROSS OVER into it. It might even be more helpful here to use the literal meaning “carried over,” for the last step is taken by God.

The Holy Spirit, the shared Inspiration of all the Sonship [His Children], induces a kind of perception in which many elements are like those in the Kingdom of Heaven Itself.

First, its universality is perfectly clear, and no-one who receives it could ever believe for one instant that sharing it involves anything BUT gain.

Second, it is incapable of attack, and is therefore truly open. This means that although it does not engender knowledge, it does not obstruct it in any way.

Third, it is an unequivocal call to love. Every other voice is still.

There is a point at which sufficient quantitative changes produce real qualitative differences. The next point requires real understanding, because it is the point at which the shift occurs.

Finally, it points the way beyond the healing which it brings, and leads the mind beyond its own integration into the paths of creation.

Healing is not creating; it is reparation. The Holy Spirit promotes healing by looking beyond it, to what the children of God were before healing was needed, and will be when they have BEEN healed. . . .

The Holy Spirit is the MOTIVATION for miracle-mindedness. It is the will to HEAL the separation by letting it go. It is IN you because God placed it in your mind, and although you can keep it asleep you cannot obliterate it. God Himself keeps it alive by transmitting it from His Mind to yours as long as there is time. It is partly His will and partly yours. The miracle itself is just this fusion or union of will between Father and Son.

The Holy Spirit is the Spirit of Joy. It is the call to return, with which God blessed the minds of the separated Sons. This is the vocation of the mind. It had no calling until the separation, because before it had only being, and would not have understood the call to right thinking. The Holy Spirit was God’s answer to the separation, the means by which the Atonement could repair until the whole mind returned to creating. The Atonement and the separation began at the same time. When man made the ego, God placed in him the call of joy. This call is so strong that the ego always dissolves at its sound.

(ACIM Urtext T 5 C 1-10 The Mind of the Atonement)

In the stunning images of the Grace video, nature can be seen as symbolizing both our true, God-given identity and the walls of separation the ego erects to hide from it. The smokestack can represent the ever-changing smokescreens that we allow to obscure the eternal Kingdom of God—the smoke and mirrors that we allow to come between us and the joyful knowledge of our true nature as Love.

Joy and Eternity are INSEPARABLE. God extends outward beyond limits and beyond time, and you, who are co-creators with Him, extend His Kingdom forever and beyond limit. Eternity is the indelible stamp of Creation. The eternal are in peace and joy forever.

To think like God is to share His certainty of WHAT YOU ARE. And to CREATE like Him is to share the perfect love He shares with YOU. To this the Holy Spirit leads you, that your joy may be complete because the Kingdom of God is whole. We have said that the last step in the re-awakening of knowledge is taken by God. This is true, but it is hard to explain in words, because words are symbols, and nothing that is true NEEDS to be explained. However, the Holy Spirit always has the task of translating the useLESS into the useFUL, the meaningLESS into the meaningFUL, and the temporary into the timeLESS. He CAN, therefore, tell you something about this last step, but this one you must know yourself, because BY it you know what you are. This IS your being. . . .

The “last step” that God was said to take was . . . true in the beginning, is true now, and will be true forever. What is timeless IS ALWAYS THERE because its BEING is eternally changeless. It does NOT change by increase, because it was forever created TO increase. If you perceive it as NOT increasing, you do not know what it IS. You also do not know what created it, or who HE is. God does not REVEAL this to you, because it was never hidden. His light was never obscured, because it is His Will to SHARE it. How can what is fully shared be withheld and then revealed?

To heal is the ONLY kind of thinking in this world that resembles the Thought of God, and because of the elements which they SHARE, can transfer TO it.

(ACIM Urtext T 7 B 2-6 Bargaining versus Healing)

These ego smokescreens manifest in many ways, but are always at their core some form of separation—guilt, fear, emptiness and feelings of being unworthy or unlovable. We will know the smokescreens of separation through our basic negative emotions of sadness, anger, fear or guilt. Loss often combines all of these, and can feel like an iron curtain between the self that is hurting and the joy of connection with Source. But as loss wounds us, our barriers come down, exposing the doorway of potential. Loss presents a perfect opportunity to find our way back to our true selves, all the way back home with God.

The wound is the place where the Light enters you. ~ Rumi

Our wounds and losses are useless, meaningless, temporary dreams in the nightmare of separation. But through grace, the Holy Spirit transforms them to useful, meaningful opportunities to open our hearts, transcend time and return home to eternity.

Emerging from the fog under the rays of grace, the glaciers of our hearts melt, their grey and weathered faces giving way to pristine crystal facets of the rhythm of Perfection. And in the violet glow of the blazing Light of Love, finally we rejoin the great turquoise sea of Oneness.

His [God’s] awareness is in everyone’s memory,
and His Word is written on everyone’s heart.
Yet this awareness and this memory
can arise across the threshold of the unconscious
only where all barriers to truth have been removed.

(ACIM Manual for Teachers, #26 “Can God Be Reached Directly?“)

Father won’t you carry me home?

Yes, He will. As soon as I am ready.

With Peace and Love,

Mira Carroll


BONUS: Joyful, musically-ecumenical bonus! (you still may need tissues)

from the honoring of Yo-Yo Ma at the Kennedy Center

It’s got everything—from Brahms to. . . well, you’ll see.




Here Comes the Sun by George Harrison


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2 Responses to “Healing Loss: Grace”
  1. Dear Carol,

    The spiritual content of this posting is so heart-centered and beautiful . . . all I can say is thank you for sharingLight, Truth, Love . . .

    “He the End we seek, and He the Means by which we go to Him.” (W-pII.302.2). (This quote was part of Ken’s commentary on the Workbook lesson I just read this morning.)

    The colorful metaphoric image of the melting glacier in the final paragraph is beautifully written.

    With love and gratitude, Lynne

    Subject: [New post] Healing Loss: Grace

    WordPress.com miracarroll posted: ” Grace Notes: of Music and Spirit Grace Love doesn’t die with the bodies of our loved ones who have passed over or moved on. Love doesn’t disappear, like circumstances or things we have lost. Love is alive in God and in each of us, always accessible si”

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    • miracarroll says:

      Dear Lynne,

      Thank you so much for your kind comments and ongoing support. Ah, yes—the End and the Means the same! That lovely paradox that is so difficult for the insane mind to allow, much less grasp.

      I don’t think I had posted the “bonus” music when you read this month’s article, but I believe you’ll really enjoy it. So here it is, the joyful, musically-ecumenical bonus, from the honoring of Yo-Yo Ma at the Kennedy Center:

      Peace and Love, Mira Carroll ❤ ❤ ❤


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