The Terrestrial Trinity of Proper Priorities

Prepare the Path for Miracles:  Practice Proper Priorities

By now almost everyone with access to the media has heard of the need to take care of oneself to avoid burnout, resentment, ineffectiveness, illness and the tragedy of an unfulfilled life.  Many even understand that when we compulsively focus on the needs of others to the neglect or denial of our own, we are engaging in codependent behavior that is problematic for ALL concerned.  Those of us who need to hear this message most often respond with something like, “okay, I get it, but HOW can I take care of myself given the demands of my life?”  And then we are usually schooled in boundaries and the fine art of saying “no.”

“No,” is an essential tool.  But a better understanding of proper priorities and how respecting this hierarchy sets us up to live out the Divine Purpose of our souls is even more useful.  With this understanding we are prepared to easily sort out our priorities in any seemingly complex situation.  So here is what I call the Terrestrial Trinity of Proper Priorities in the straightforward, no-confusion-simplicity of the incomparable spiritual teacher Michael Mirdad:

Terrestrial Trinity of Proper Priorities (in order):

  1. God
  2. Self
  3. Others


When we put God first, everything else in our lives is brought into alignment with our spiritual beliefs, principles and ideals.  There is simply no substitute for putting God first if you want to build a life of peace, love, joy, abundance and purpose.  Of course, in order to do this, we must be aware of our spiritual beliefs, values and ideals.  And we must be willing to choose them over other sometimes tantalizing options.

Throughout the history of humanity there have been plenty of false notions around God and a lot of unloving behavior justified by those ideas.  It helps me to remember that God Created Oneness.  Oneness (a foundation of several major world religions) is the ultimate spiritual ideal.  What could be better than being One with God and All That Is?  So my best beliefs, thoughts and actions should always resonate with Oneness.


Next, we must take care of ourselves.  We must take care of ourselves because we understand that we are tools of Divine Purpose, aka God’s Will.  Tools need to be maintained in good working condition in order to be useful.  What this means in practice will fluctuate with our available resources of time, energy, money, and physical, emotional, mental and spiritual reserves.  Michael Mirdad has reduced this concept to the salient question, “What can I afford?”  When we answer this with rigorous honesty, we usually have our answer.  Many of us will benefit from asking an additional question,  “What would a person who loved him or herself choose?”  We may even need to ask, “What would a loving person choose on behalf of a loved one?”. . . and then apply that decision to ourselves.


Finally we must consider others.  Does this potential action or decision respect others?  Is it loving?  Is it ethical?  How does it serve others?  Might it hurt others?  We do our best to predict and weigh consequences (humbly understanding that our vision is still invariably limited and thus incomplete), and then make our choice based on our best understanding of what will create the most good for the most people, including ourselves.

Each decision always involves all three levels:  God, Self and Others.  Under this model we can call it co-creation.  And each decision we need to make is passed through the filter of three basic questions:

  1. Does this align with my spiritual principles?
  2. Can I afford to do or support this?
  3. What would create the most good for the most people?

Let’s look at a theoretical example.  Suppose you have a family member—spouse, child, parent, sibling or other relative—who needs special care or attention, and this care or attention is above and beyond what you have envisioned for your life.  What do you do?

God:  First you look at the need in light of your spiritual principles.  What are the options for care?  There is always more than just one.  Rank the options from most to least desirable.  How does each option involve you, and what does it ask of you?  What would happen to this family member if you did not step up in each different option scenario?  What would Love do?  What resonates with the Oneness of God’s Creation?

Self:  Now you ask yourself what you can AFFORD to do.  What changes in your life would likely result from each option?  Can you smile inside while you imagine choosing a particular option?  If not, what might make it smile-able?  What would a person who loved him or herself choose?  Even when we choose to do things that are clearly not our “first choice,” there is a way to do them that is loving and respectful of ourselves.  And we are not asked to undertake life and all its challenges alone.  There is always help for us as close as a prayer.

I need but call and You will answer me.  (ACIM Workbook Lesson 327)

Others:  Finally you ask what would create the most good for the most people.  Perhaps there is some option that others are pushing for.  How much good does that option really create for you, for them and for others?  The most good for the most people is not about what others WANT the most.  It is about what is likely to create the most good for the most.  As a mature inhabitant of the “real world” illusion, you already know that sometimes NOT getting what is wanted does the most good.


A Course in Miracles makes abundantly clear that we are not called to sacrifice.

I bless the world because I bless myself. . . .

The thought of sacrifice gives rise to all the forms that suffering appears to take.

And sacrifice is an idea so mad that sanity dismisses it at once.

Never believe that you can sacrifice.

(ACIM Workbook Lesson 187)

Each of us has a crucial purpose in the conscious reunion of the Children of God with the Creator and each other.  But we are not required to undergo crucifixion (Jesus took care of that).  We are asked to heal, to become whole, to remember Oneness.

Let my mind be healed, that I may carry healing to the world.  (ACIM Workbook Lesson 136)

When I am healed I am not healed alone.  (ACIM Workbook Lesson 137)

As we embrace the Love of God in our lives, what we need to know to do our part is revealed to us.  Our path is made clear (and at times literally cleared for us).  It is our job to continually listen, learn and do:

  • Listen to the small, still voice—the Holy Spirit—the Voice for Love.
  • Learn Its lessons.
  • Do the work of Love—forgiveness—here on Earth.

Forgiveness is the key to happiness.  (ACIM Workbook Lesson 121)

Forgiveness offers everything I want.

What could you want forgiveness cannot give?  Do you want peace?  Forgiveness offers it.  Do you want happiness, a quiet mind, a certainty of purpose, and a sense of worth and beauty that transcends the world?  Do you want care and safety, and the warmth of sure protection always?  Do you want a quietness that cannot be disturbed, a gentleness that can never be hurt, a deep, abiding comfort, and a rest so perfect it can never be upset?

All this forgiveness offers you, and more.  (ACIM Workbook Lesson 122)

As we are seeking or living our soul’s Divine Purpose, we often develop clear and explicit ideas about what we are doing, what we are called to do, what we need and what “should” happen.  The Course (just like the Bible) assures us that we will be taken care of and our needs will be met.  But to be effective, we also must remember to remain unattached to our current vision of our lives and work.  The point has never been to just manifest our desires and dreams, like walking into the world’s biggest, infinitely-stocked free cafeteria and piling up a big tray full of whatever we want.  All of us are ultimately here to serve the Holy Spirit’s Purpose of reuniting Heaven and Earth.  When we are aligned to this service, our seemingly individual dreams will reflect our soul’s purpose, which always meshes with Divine Purpose.

[The Holy Spirit] seems to be whatever meets the needs you think you have.

But He is not deceived when you perceive your self entrapped in needs you do not have.

It is from these He would deliver you.

(ACIM, Clarification of Terms, “The Holy Spirit“)

Too often we’re attached to some idea of prosperity we desire and have adopted.  But this definition of prosperity has nothing to do with our soul’s purpose or our true needs, except perhaps to teach us that we don’t “need THAT.”  But when we follow the Terrestrial Trinity and practice proper priorities we do not lose trust in God or ourselves, even when we are not manifesting what we envision.  Instead we listen, learn and TRUST that our needs are and will be taken care of.  Decisions made in alignment with the hierarchy of God, Self and Others build our lives of Divine Purpose.  Do that, and if you need a _______________ (fill in your own blank), that too will manifest.

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6 Responses to “The Terrestrial Trinity of Proper Priorities”
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    Brilliant. It is so simple and incredibly clear. Perfect.

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